/* Working Papers of Patrick Lee Cheatham - under Content Development */
The Debasing of terms Socialism and Individualism
Over the last half of the last century, it seems that any root word would become disparaged if only the suffixes -ism or -ist were tacked on at the end. The land of opportunity slandered by stating “opportunism,” social interplay between individuals being slandered by stating “socialism” or “individualism.” The way so many words have been tarnished by way of phrasing an embarrassing to read definition to those words, and calling them “-isms” is comically loaded with strange definitions that abound on the internet. Social matters. Individual selves matter. But the usage of these words available to study are ridiculously designed strange discussions, and I believe concocted by writers with an agenda maybe hidden against the root word itself. That’s not to win or destroy or prevail, but just to take it away from the reader, slowly, slightly, regularly, and with continuance. Social means that one is not alone and one is going to have an effect, or a lack of effect, on others. It is always there. Individual is always there, as each person possesses it.
Against Bothering Others, and Not Just Self-Serving
Even when someone’s privacy is at a maximum, or in private, the nature of humans is that some degree of caring about the effects on others, still pertains. Effect on others, even if just not to make too much noise, or even if to just close window coverings, for when partially disrobed in a domicile, is common human behavior.
Effects on others are often more for a self to abstain from disturbing effects on other persons, than is often commonly considered, to be care for self-privacy or self-avoidance of embarrassment. Both factors are always online, when conscious.
To whom the Sway? It Ebbs and Flows
The ebb and flow of more for self (than others) versus more for others (than always some small degree for self, for the self to even operate effectively) is a dynamic phenomenon, not well analyzed by stasis modelling, or freezing time in the mental picture, and keeping it that way as time changes, by the second. Instead, a person might kindly or tolerantly listen to another find satisfaction in talking his or her story to him or her as recipient, then might next assert more sway and have his or her wording heard by doing the talking. I am of the opinion that the most gain is to made for him or herself by that talker, and I do prefer to speak or talk or say in conversation, but then just a bit later the ebb and flow changes and it is time to listen. It turns out that I am very astute at this, as I live alone as self-employed, and thus my everyday face-to-face social opportunities are limited to service personnel interaction while out purchasing goods or services, and interaction with peer shoppers while waiting. I have no coworkers to be social with, and my dear old friends who live metro area semi-local are busy with families and events, and that makes them difficult to coordinate with. So I am assertive with service personnel, but very careful to remain in tune with how they react to me, with willingness to segue my way toward quietude fairly quickly if a service personnel cash register clerk, or some peer shopper in line, becomes rapidly less talkative.
Social Animals whether With Others or Alone
Social effect includes phone calls, text messages, emails, face to face conversation, and clothing and garb openly declared while in public. Social effect is also in a person’s considerations, whenever developing or creating anything, for later delivery or publishing, for other persons or other selves, to read, see, or consume. Some small degree of extroversion is always there, even for those strongly introverted, and that is satisfied by working on projects, for later notice by other persons. Some degree of introversion is always there, even for those strongly extroverted, and is satisfied by driving a car in solitude, to some extent.
Social Media Counts
There is much vilification and tragically hip slander against social media. It may not match the human touch and fill preferred needed intimate time like face to face conversation, but it is very human touch. A social media user is very benefitted socially by noticing his or her posts or comments to be interacted with. My mother emphasized that correspondence socially was a great and important thing. That is the way of social media. Some psychologists seem to have an axe to grind against it, and I do not think they understand that any message from a person, whether in a bottle, in an old fashioned card in the road mail, or verbally while on the phone or face to face, it all has some social value.
Social Touch Categories
All four of the below types of interaction have their social touch, and are very beneficial to each individual self.
- Face to Face Conversation
- Preparing for Others to Hear, Read, See, or Listen to Personally Produced Works
- Telephone Calls
- Social Messages
I have discovered that if I do not get once per day brief quality time in face to face conversation, that my holistic well-being degrades a bit. It doesn’t take very long in time (just thirty seconds about) and it doesn’t have to be too special, but a brief humorous or intimate exchange of opinionated commentary held in agreement or similarity, being a very quick quality time with acquaintanceships of service personnel, or strangers in line, does great things for all of us I think. Preparing works for others to consume in due time ranks second in importance. I do this many times per day, and I am doing it now while writing on an Essay I know a few people might read over in the coming hours or weeks. This maintains social responsibility, sense of impact and consequence, and people orientation while I write, and colors the moment for me. This warms an individual in real time, before interaction, as well.
Telephone calls are not as beneficial I have found, at least to me, as social messages are. Likes and acknowledgements are personal social votes of affiliation and/or approval which we each find valuable. The telephone has no body language available, to place another person’s words in any human-to-human intimate form. In contrast, social media images and formatting do better at presentation of socially consumable time with others.